A little history... Part 2
Now you know about my life up to 2014, let me fill you in on the rest.
After leaving my ex, I moved back in with my parents- the millennial nightmare! I am grateful I had a place to go, to get back on my feet, but it did not take me long to remember why 18 year old me wanted out so badly!
I lived there for a year.
Saving money.
Working on me.
I started to work out and tried to eat healthy.
I joined several dating apps and went on dozens of dates. In November 2014 I was ready to quit one app in particular. It's always shocking to me what people will say when they're on a computer or on their phone, things (I hope) they would never say in person. Then this message came in. A well thought out message that showed me he not only looked at my location and pictures, but read my profile. He was cute. He had animals. I wish I could remember what he said specifically but I just remember thinking "this is more like it." We went on a date to the mall. Dinner, window shopping, coffee, movies. Then sitting in the car for 3 hours, talking, making out, talking some more. I didn't want to leave, but I also didn't want to rush into things.
Trying to play it cool, I went on another date with a different person the next night. But all I could think about was the guy from last night. He texted me on my way home to check in on me and we made plans to see each other the following day. I don't remember exactly when, but I know it was that week that I shut down my account and stopped looking for other people to date. He invited me to Christmas at his family's house and nervously introduced me to his mom. We sat in my car afterwards and he just looked at me with a shocked look and said "so I guess you really do like me if you're still here after that." His family is incredible but I'm sure it feels different for him. We made our relationship facebook official and that was it.
I got my own apartment in June of 2015. The one and only apartment I have ever lived in by myself. I was so proud of that tiny little thing. It was mine and I loved it. I was able to pay my billed, put money in savings, and pay off past debt. What??? I was close to work and close to my guy but there were plenty of nights that I spent alone, and I needed that! I needed to not always be with him or with friends, just sitting alone and figuring out me. We even went on a family vacation with my parents and it was the least cringe worthy experience I have ever had with my parents and a guy I was dating. He knew how to handle my mom, he got along with my dad, and was even a doll to their dog, who is like another child to them. I don't want to go so far as to say he was perfect, since he may see this one day, but the guy was nearly perfect.
2016 we moved into his apartment together. It was a shit hole but it was big and cheap, another opportunity to stash away money. Best of all, he was already living there so we didn't have to find a place that would accept his dog and 2 cats. I continued to work on my money, I continued to work out, kind of eat healthy, and build new friendships while strengthening the old friendships I had neglected due to my ex (one thing I didn't mention was that he was all about hanging out with his friends but always found a way to put down mine and basically pull me away from them.) My new guy on the other hand was all about me being independent and doing what I wanted. Never expecting me to ask permission, never bothering me while I was out, but always greeting me with the biggest smile and hug when I came home.
2017 we got engaged and bought a house. HOLY SHIT I am a home owner? I went from being evicted multiple times, to owning a home!!! I still can't believe it even though I'm sitting in my dining room and looking out my friend door as I write this!
2018 we got married. We went on an amazing honeymoon, which I plan to write about, so stay tuned for that, and we have settled into life. But there is still work to be done on me and on our relationship, because let's be honest! You can't love someone else and expect them to love you unless you love yourself. Plus, marriage is WORK! I hate it when people say that it's easy. I mean when you have the right spouse it's easier than it is with a bad one (trust me I know *wink, wink*) but you still have to work on it, to stay connected, to work together, and to not fall into the trap of mundane life. Let me tell you, just because you got each other, doesn't mean the chase is over!
So that alllllll leads me to this blog. I'm going to detail my plans for myself, for my marriage, and everything else. And I'm going to update you on how it's going. What's working. What isn't working. And hopefully you'll find the information useful, or maybe you can help me with some information that will make this experience even better.
Are you ready? Next post will be my list! 35 things I want to do this year to improve my life! See ya soon!
After leaving my ex, I moved back in with my parents- the millennial nightmare! I am grateful I had a place to go, to get back on my feet, but it did not take me long to remember why 18 year old me wanted out so badly!
I lived there for a year.
Saving money.
Working on me.
I started to work out and tried to eat healthy.
I joined several dating apps and went on dozens of dates. In November 2014 I was ready to quit one app in particular. It's always shocking to me what people will say when they're on a computer or on their phone, things (I hope) they would never say in person. Then this message came in. A well thought out message that showed me he not only looked at my location and pictures, but read my profile. He was cute. He had animals. I wish I could remember what he said specifically but I just remember thinking "this is more like it." We went on a date to the mall. Dinner, window shopping, coffee, movies. Then sitting in the car for 3 hours, talking, making out, talking some more. I didn't want to leave, but I also didn't want to rush into things.
Trying to play it cool, I went on another date with a different person the next night. But all I could think about was the guy from last night. He texted me on my way home to check in on me and we made plans to see each other the following day. I don't remember exactly when, but I know it was that week that I shut down my account and stopped looking for other people to date. He invited me to Christmas at his family's house and nervously introduced me to his mom. We sat in my car afterwards and he just looked at me with a shocked look and said "so I guess you really do like me if you're still here after that." His family is incredible but I'm sure it feels different for him. We made our relationship facebook official and that was it.
I got my own apartment in June of 2015. The one and only apartment I have ever lived in by myself. I was so proud of that tiny little thing. It was mine and I loved it. I was able to pay my billed, put money in savings, and pay off past debt. What??? I was close to work and close to my guy but there were plenty of nights that I spent alone, and I needed that! I needed to not always be with him or with friends, just sitting alone and figuring out me. We even went on a family vacation with my parents and it was the least cringe worthy experience I have ever had with my parents and a guy I was dating. He knew how to handle my mom, he got along with my dad, and was even a doll to their dog, who is like another child to them. I don't want to go so far as to say he was perfect, since he may see this one day, but the guy was nearly perfect.
2016 we moved into his apartment together. It was a shit hole but it was big and cheap, another opportunity to stash away money. Best of all, he was already living there so we didn't have to find a place that would accept his dog and 2 cats. I continued to work on my money, I continued to work out, kind of eat healthy, and build new friendships while strengthening the old friendships I had neglected due to my ex (one thing I didn't mention was that he was all about hanging out with his friends but always found a way to put down mine and basically pull me away from them.) My new guy on the other hand was all about me being independent and doing what I wanted. Never expecting me to ask permission, never bothering me while I was out, but always greeting me with the biggest smile and hug when I came home.
2017 we got engaged and bought a house. HOLY SHIT I am a home owner? I went from being evicted multiple times, to owning a home!!! I still can't believe it even though I'm sitting in my dining room and looking out my friend door as I write this!
2018 we got married. We went on an amazing honeymoon, which I plan to write about, so stay tuned for that, and we have settled into life. But there is still work to be done on me and on our relationship, because let's be honest! You can't love someone else and expect them to love you unless you love yourself. Plus, marriage is WORK! I hate it when people say that it's easy. I mean when you have the right spouse it's easier than it is with a bad one (trust me I know *wink, wink*) but you still have to work on it, to stay connected, to work together, and to not fall into the trap of mundane life. Let me tell you, just because you got each other, doesn't mean the chase is over!
So that alllllll leads me to this blog. I'm going to detail my plans for myself, for my marriage, and everything else. And I'm going to update you on how it's going. What's working. What isn't working. And hopefully you'll find the information useful, or maybe you can help me with some information that will make this experience even better.
Are you ready? Next post will be my list! 35 things I want to do this year to improve my life! See ya soon!
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